Narcissism – Definition and Victimization

February 16, 2023

Narcissism – Definition

 

and

 

Victimization

 

Padmini Arhant

The article is dedicated to victims of narcissism. The victims or the target silently suffer narcissism among family, work, social domain and world at large.

Narcissism not subject to legal and social consequences is rampant in society ruining lives and causing immense mental, emotional, psychological and physical strain on many lives deprived of normal peaceful life.

Narcissism – Psychology definition

Selfishness involving a sense of entitlement, lack of empathy and a need for admiration as characterizing a personality type.

Common Narcissist Characteristics
  • Inflated Ego.
  • Lack of Empathy.
  • Need for Attention.
  • Repressed Insecurities.
  • Few Boundaries.

The 4 types of narcissism.

As a personality trait, narcissism can be overt, covert, antagonistic, communal or malignant.

With the above outlined definition, characteristics and types of narcissism prevalent in society, the abusive commonality in narcissism is often found extremely destructive for victims enduring narcissistic culture in life.

In social terms of life experience.

Narcissism – a personality disorder with obsession to control, mind and dominate the target’s life.

Narcissists other traits are manipulation, connivance, cowardice deploying nuanced attacks and insinuations belittling target rather than direct comments. Additionally they possess multipolar personality with fake disposition to the world and displaying true colors to their target. These are some of narcissists’ diverse disturbing behavioral pattern.

There is no doubt on narcissists seeking their target’s isolation to ambush and inflict serious injury which is often emotional and mental not barring physical impact as a result of the narcissists’ toxicity and irreconcilable dogma.

Setting psychology apart, narcissists denial on any behavioral issues on their part is classic syndrome. They consistently and persistently hold the victims at fault even to the extent of recommendation on clinical i.e. psychological counseling to psychiatric treatment for their victims.

Socially, narcissists suffer from anxiety, frustration and sense of rejection upon their victims distancing themselves for personal well being besides awareness averting problems by creating boundaries between them on what are acceptable and unacceptable in human relations regardless of the kind.

Narcissists being people largely with low and no self-esteem as well as deep insecurity, they prey on those who are genuinely nice, understanding,compassionate and of good nature.

The narcissists’ facade  laden with presumptuousness, egotistical megalomaniacal self-adulation instrumental in their prejudice, misogyny, condescendence and constant disparagement of their target is common among both male and female predators offloading their negativities on their target.

How to deal with narcissists and narcissism?

First of all, the victims of narcissism should never allow the narcissists or others to treat them disrespectfully and remind them constantly that respect is not a one way street with a dead end. The victims should reinforce the message to narcissists and whoever not treating them right that mutual respect is an obligation for mankind even in the worst situations of disagreements and dispute.

Second, the victims should never accept nor believe the character defamation of them usually the favorite assault by narcissists and those involving in any form of abuse.

The narcissists often intensify their narcissism by spreading vicious unsubstantiated rumors about the target to anyone and everyone whether related and connected or not. Such behavior from narcissists is to further alienate the target or victim to the point of hopelessness and helplessness with no choice except surrender to narcissists abuse as the victims’ fate.

Next, the victims should maintain high morale, inner confidence and strong belief in inner strength eliminating self-doubt the fodder for narcissists to exert influence on the target.

Narcissists are habitual nitpickers exaggerating and mocking the target / victims’ minor insignificant details and deliberately suppress the target / victims’ major achievements in life. The tactic is to demoralize and denigrate their target / victims.

Narcissists weakness is quest for power and prominence in the least wanting to be the center of attraction – all of which prompts them to target the contrary personality treating them inferior to selves aiding false consolation.

Importantly, the absence of inner harmony and contentment within they witness in their victim or target triggers hostility towards the target.

Narcissists are impulsive provocateurs and trouble makers by default. They test their target’s reaction to provocation verbatim or indirect insult and insolence.

In this instance, there are two options for the target.

1. The target completely ignore the narcissists which is usually unwelcome by them as dismissal of narcissists leave the latter with bruised ego. Again the target slighting the narcissists rather than apologizing or expressing regret would provide clear signal to the abuser on their narcissism having no effects making them irrelevant.

2. The other option is for the target / victim to serve narcissists the opposite response. The narcissists provoke the target with the expectation of outbursts and agitation from the victim. The victim or the target should take a deep breath retaining calm and composure reply to narcissists in sarcasm to sign up for healthy mental and physical activity to make their life meaningful.

Any time narcissists use opportunity to cause unnecessary pain and emotional exploitation, the victims should remain steadfast and train themselves to stand up to narcissistic woes and strictly prohibit any mental, psychological and physical harm.

The narcissists as deniers of any wrongdoing never acknowledge their abusive conduct. They are parasites and crave for hosts to prolong their parasitic existence.

The narcissists never practice what they preach their victims such as tolerance despite the terminology and attribute being oxymoron to them.

The solution for victims or target in these conditions.

Many victims of narcissism confirm them restoring or return to normal life subsequent to disassociation and disconnect with narcissists shunning abusive environment. Furthermore, the victims investment in productive, positive and peaceful endeavors away from narcissists’ interference would promote self-fortitude and happiness.

Some victims of narcissism experiencing depression and restlessness unable to remove themselves permanently would be better off availing moments to go on vacation, travel or visit places and people they desire to see or spend time with stimulating peace and joy.

With clinical diagnosis of narcissism as incurable, while religious advice emphasize on empathy, love, kindness…towards narcissists, the prognosis exacerbate victims’ suffering.

The victims or target are lectured to grin and bear the abuse with smiles and large heartedness by those in society who would instantly decline own mistreatment let alone sacrifice their life for abusers’ sadistic pleasure.

The narcissists and abusers of individual rights are the ones to be checked and advised to behave themselves condemning their actions – reprehensible.

The narcissists and abusers’ failure to treat their victims or target with respect and dignity is clarification on them devoid of basic human values.

Invariably, the narcissists leave the world burdened with guilt and sins having wasted life in hurting and harming goodness in their victims / target  much to self-destruction. The eternal karmic debts binding them forever receiving what they served their victims / target in the present life is the only certainty following their demise.

The victims or target need not tolerate narcissism and any abuse at anytime in life. The life with individual liberty, peace, success and satisfaction is inalienable birth right barring discrimination and selective discretion.

Padmini Arhant

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